Recovery Resources for
Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma
Healing from sex addiction and betrayal trauma is a process—and you don’t have to do it alone. Whether you’re the one struggling or the partner who’s been hurt, there are tools, support groups, and books that can guide you toward clarity, healing, and connection.
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Below are our most trusted resources, starting with 12-step programs and followed by books we regularly recommend in our work with clients.
Tools & Exercises
Looking for support you can actually use today? These tools and exercises offer simple, practical steps to help you understand your patterns, build healthier habits, and move forward with clarity.
Countdown to Relapse: A Practical Awareness Tool
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Relapse doesn’t happen all at once — it builds slowly, like a countdown. Long before someone “acts out,” there are small shifts in thinking, changes in routine, ignored warning signs, and rising emotional pressure that move them closer to risk.
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In this short video, you’ll learn how to recognize those stages early and understand the patterns that lead toward relapse. It’s a simple way to slow down the process, spot what’s happening sooner, and regain control before things escalate.
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After watching, download the worksheet below to map out your own ten-step countdown. It will help you:
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Break relapse into clear, predictable stages
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Identify the triggers, thoughts, emotions, and environments that pull you in
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Name specific ways to interrupt the process at each step
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Build the self-awareness needed to “abort the launch” before it reaches zero
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This isn’t about shame — it’s about understanding, prevention, and empowerment.
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When you can see your countdown clearly, you can stop it sooner… and choose a different path forward.
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Download the PDF
Click below to access the Countdown to Relapse worksheet.
Ignition tool PDF
Quick Videos, Real Support
Looking for answers without the overwhelm? These short videos from Jory offer practical guidance, gentle insights, and a reminder that you’re not alone on this journey.
Waking Up from Isolation
Addiction thrives in silence and disconnection. In this video, Jory explores how isolation feeds compulsive behavior—and why connection is a powerful first step toward healing. You don’t have to do this alone.
Am I Valuable?
Where does your worth really come from? In this short video, Jory invites you to explore a powerful question: Is your value based on what you do—or simply who you are? If you’ve ever felt like you had to earn your worth, this gentle reminder is for you.
Replacement
Breaking a habit doesn’t mean stopping cold—it means replacing one action with another. In this video, Jory explains how small shifts in your habit loop can create meaningful change. It’s not complicated, but it does take courage and consistency.
What’s Good About Sex Addiction?
It might sound strange—but even harmful behaviors often start with a purpose. In this video, Jory explores the deeper why behind compulsive sexual behavior: what it may have been protecting, and how understanding that can be the first step toward real healing.
Follow Jory's channel for more deep insights and support on your healing journey.
12-Step Recovery Fellowships
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Twelve-step support groups are free, peer-led, and available around the world. You don’t need a diagnosis—just a willingness to explore healing in a safe, structured community.
For Those Struggling with Sex Addiction:
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For Partners and Spouses:
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Books for Those Recovering from Sex Addiction
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Out of the Shadows – Patrick Carnes
The classic text that introduced sex addiction as a diagnosable condition. A must-read for understanding the cycle.
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Facing the Shadow – Patrick Carnes
A practical workbook that walks individuals through the early stages of recovery.
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Sex Addiction 101 – Robert Weiss
A straightforward, compassionate guide to understanding sex addiction in today’s world.
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Treating Pornography Addiction – Kevin Skinner
Research-based insight into the effects of pornography and the path toward recovery.
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Wired for Intimacy – William M. Struthers
A Christian-informed, neuroscience-based exploration of how pornography impacts the male brain.
Books for Betrayed Partners
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Your Sexually Addicted Spouse – Barbara Steffens & Marsha Means
Groundbreaking book that reframes the partner’s experience through the lens of trauma—not codependency.
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Courageous Love – Stefanie Carnes
Offers tools to help partners heal, set boundaries, and move forward—together or apart.
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Facing Heartbreak – Stefanie Carnes, Mari Lee & Anthony Rodriguez
A practical, step-by-step workbook for partners to work through the emotional devastation of betrayal.
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After the Affair – Janis Abrahms Spring
Helps both partners understand what happened and how to recover trust after infidelity.
Books for Couples Healing Together
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Mending a Shattered Heart – Stefanie Carnes
A collection of essays from therapists and partners offering wisdom and practical steps for healing together.
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The Couple’s Guide to Intimacy – Bill & Ginger Bercaw
Strategies to rebuild physical and emotional intimacy in the aftermath of betrayal.
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Helping Her Heal – Carol Juergensen Sheets
Written specifically for men in recovery who want to better understand and support their betrayed partners.
Books on Trauma, Attachment & Personal Insight
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The Body Keeps the Score – Bessel van der Kolk
A powerful book about how trauma affects the body and brain—and how healing is possible.
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Attached – Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
Understand your attachment style and how it shapes your patterns in relationships.
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Unwanted – Jay Stringer
Explores how our unwanted sexual behaviors are connected to our story and offers a redemptive path forward.
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