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Shea Davis

Welcome!
I'm Shea Davis, AMFT

Therapist for Betrayed Partners and Individuals in Recovery from Sex and Love Addiction
 

Healing is possible—even after the deepest breaches of trust.

I help betrayed partners, addicts, and individuals in relational chaos find clarity, self-respect, and lasting recovery.

My Story

For 24 years, I was married to a partner whose way of connecting often left me feeling confused, unseen, and emotionally alone. 
 

From the outside, we looked like we were doing okay. 
 

On the inside, I felt like I was constantly chasing closeness that would disappear the moment I reached for it. My longing for emotional intimacy was often met with defensiveness or silence.

I doubted myself, minimized my needs, and slowly lost touch with what was real. 
 

That emotional starvation—and the deep grief that came with it—shaped my path to healing, and ultimately to the work I do today.

Betrayal, Secrets, and the Cost of Silence

I know what it’s like to discover betrayal—and not just once.

I’ve lived through the disorientation of learning that the life you thought you had wasn’t the whole story. 
 

I’ve felt the gut-punch of financial secrets, emotional infidelity, and the unraveling that comes when you finally stop pretending everything is fine.

I understand the way trauma lives in the body after discovery: the hypervigilance, the obsessive mental loops, the shame for not knowing. 
 

And I know what it takes to rebuild trust—not just in others, but in yourself.

Walking Through 12-Step Recovery—As an Addict and a Partner

My own path to recovery began when I walked into a 12-step room utterly broken. 
 

I was the addict. 
 

I was also the betrayed partner. 
 

I had caused harm, and I had been deeply harmed. Recovery taught me how to stop numbing and start feeling. It showed me how to identify patterns, name reality, and find my worth outside of other people’s reactions.

Most importantly, it gave me the tools to rebuild from the ground up—with humility, honesty, and hard-won boundaries.
 

That dual experience—of being both the one who crossed lines and the one who was devastated by betrayal—allows me to work without judgment.

I understand the shame that comes with acting out. I understand the rage and despair that comes from being betrayed. And I hold space for both.

Working with Betrayed Partners

If you've discovered your partner has been hiding a sexual life you never consented to, you're not crazy—and you're not alone.

I work with partners who are reeling from betrayal and trying to make sense of a world that suddenly doesn’t add up.
 

In our work together, I help you:
 

  • Reclaim your reality and learn to trust your instincts again

  • Understand the trauma symptoms that emerge after discovery

  • Set boundaries that honor your integrity—not your partner’s discomfort

  • Navigate the obsessive search for truth without losing yourself in it

  • Begin the long, complicated process of healing—whether you stay or go
     

You don’t have to “get over it.” You get to move through it—with clarity, self-respect, and support.

Working with Addicts in Recovery

If you’ve lived with secret behaviors, double lives, or compulsive sexual patterns that have harmed your relationships, I understand the shame, fear, and confusion that often surround this work.

I also know that healing is possible—and that it starts with radical honesty.
 

In our sessions, we focus on:
 

  • Identifying your acting-out patterns and the pain beneath them

  • Understanding the role of fantasy, avoidance, and emotional numbing

  • Rebuilding relationships based on truth, not performance

  • Developing coping strategies that actually work with your nervous system

  • Learning to take accountability without collapsing into shame
     

Recovery is not about perfection. It’s about showing up, again and again, with integrity. And I’ll be here to support that process.

Working with Couples in the Wake of Betrayal

Whether you're trying to rebuild trust or simply trying to make sense of the damage, couples work after betrayal is a tender, volatile process.

I bring clinical training, trauma sensitivity, and lived experience to this space.
 

Together, we work to:
 

  • Slow down reactive cycles and rebuild a sense of emotional safety

  • Explore the impact of betrayal without minimizing or avoiding it

  • Create clear boundaries and agreements that support healing

  • Reconnect—not through guilt or control—but through empathy and shared values
     

This work isn’t about returning to “how things were.” It’s about building something new—something more honest, more resilient, and more connected.

Who I Work With

  • Betrayed partners struggling to make sense of discovery

  • Individuals in recovery from sex, love, or porn addiction

  • Couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity or compulsive sexual behavior

  • People working through the cycle of relapse, shame, and recommitment

  • Anyone seeking a grounded, compassionate approach to relational healing

What I Bring

I bring lived experience—as the addict, the betrayed partner, and the person who decided to heal.

I bring the insight of someone who has sat in 12-step circles, led hard conversations, and walked through fire. 

I also bring deep clinical training in trauma, attachment, and couples therapy. 


My office is a judgment-free zone where your story matters and your healing is possible.
 

Whether you're here to repair, recover, or redefine your relationship with yourself, I’ll meet you with honesty, steadiness, and respect.

Additional Information

Modalities

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)

  • Polyvagal theory

  • Trauma-informed care

  • Gottman Method

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